Wellbeing

  “There are three sides to every story.
 
  Your side, their side, and the truth.”
  Anon

Family and couples mentoring

Our job is not to find what is wrong with you or put anything right. Our role is not just to listen or to counsel – it is to facilitate your own exploration and discovery of old and new ways of interacting with your partner and/or family members. Every relationship has its ups and downs. Sometimes you may feel as though you are experiencing more downs than ups. The down times may range from minor irritations such as who should do the washing up to major disputes when it feels as though your family is about to fall apart. At the more extreme end of this spectrum it is easy to start thinking that there is something wrong with either us or our family.
Working through your challenges by exposing your situation, disagreements and behaviours to scrutiny without judgement can help you to make sense of what is happening and develop new strategies to deal with the natural conflicts which arise when we live in social groups. Exploring your behaviour (individual or joint) in your own real life environment can enable you to see patterns which lead to conflict, irritations which lead to argument and help you to turn these discoveries into opportunities. Rest assured there is nothing wrong with you or your loved ones and the majority of the time your relationship issues are like those of every family. You also have the uniqueness of your particular circumstances and group dynamic to contend with and ultimately to celebrate.
We will recommend to you from the outset the best way for you to get the most out of the mentoring process. The process will depend on our analysis of your strengths and challenges at our first meeting. The programme that follows is designed to meet your needs and is also structured in such a way to allow for the inevitable changes that are triggered by what we discover together.
We will not be focusing on what is wrong with you or your family. The purpose of this intense and supportive approach is to enhance what you already have –your personal integrity, honesty, willingness to work through your perceived problems and your determination to relate more harmoniously together or apart.

Typical programme of events
• Initial consultation – at our offices or in your own home. All family members present and goals agreed.
• Series of meetings either in person on using Skype when appropriate. Time span to be fit circumstances- usually over several weeks and up to several months.
• Individual consultations if considered necessary in between the family sessions and usually out of the home environment.
• Appraisal – what has been achieved and agreement to adopt new strategies where appropriate.
• Follow up meeting at an agreed interval to assess the outcome and look to the future.